“You can act like a man” – Mr. Brando as Vito Coreleone in the Godfather.

So buddy your going to get your nails done, your hair styled, or maybe your chest waxed? 10 years ago you would of been laughed at, or you were going to a swim meet. Now this goes for heterosexual males this post, because really homosexual males are blessedly free from the burden of trying to figure out the female of the species in a romantic way. Though trying to figure them out in any way is a chore for any male homosexual, heterosexual, or eunach. Now this post is a sweeping generalization, and indictment of our society, I apologize in advance. Where are we going as the male of the species? A good friend of mine Nora who posts at Shoulda Woulda Coulda had this to say.

http://readswc.wordpress.com/2008/04/03/the-sexual-revolution-was-a-huge-mistake/

I’m not pointing fingers, but she’s right women our confused, but in their confusion we have allowed ourselves to be confused thus compounding the situation. The only ones to blame men is us. We allowed the women to drive us to such ends. Women are the gatekeepers of sex in society, we men just allow ourselves to be deluded by these fair creatures. When women don’t know what they want, how the hell is it we know what they want so we can do that which they want. I think there was a song a few years ago about a woman complaining “Where have all the cowboys gone?” Hate to say it, but I think their at the nail salons getting manicures, and pedicures.  

Society has progressed so fast, that human nature is not keeping up.  Harry the Caveman was a hunter. Sara the Cavewoman wanted food, He got food, Sara wanted a dry place to sleep, Harry killed a bear and took his cave. All very simple. In this day and age though Sara doesn’t know what she wants. We treat you like a woman, you say were sexist. We treat you like a man, you cry because were not sensitive enough. We treat you like an equal, your indifferent to us.

So once we get past the fact that women are confused, and don’t know what they want. We let them change us. In an effort to appease them we change, no longer the cowboy, but a wussy boy. They even made us into a sub-species of male they call the meterosexual, a male peacock who trys to preen himself for the female of the species. 

How do we solve this problem? We become the men we should be, but within reason. Being a man doesn’t give us right to be an asshole. Being a man isn’t about domineering women, it’s about knowing what one wants out of life, and not compromising. It’s not about being the best dressed, it’s about having your own sense of style, and not caring what anybody else thinks. It’s not about being unfeeling, it’s about having the emotional fortitude to know when it’s ok to cry, and know when it’s time to be strong, and to be a pillar of rock for those you love. It’s not about being tough guy, it’s about protecting those that need protection.   

As a side note if your a man, and you are or have ever beaten, molested or raped a woman you my friend are lower then scum, and are no man. You are a coward, and I firmly believe as a coward one day you will get yours. That’s all I’ll say on this topic.

Want a crash course on being a man.

Go and Buy these movies cause they are your new manuals. –  Godfather I & II, The Good , Bad, and the Ugly,  Vikings with Kirk Douglas, Enemy Below with Robert Mitchum, and Patton with George C. Scott. Start with those I’ll give you more later.

Things in these movies bring out what it means to be a man, and the man one should strive to be.

Like in the Godfather, when Vito slaps the crying Johnny saying “You can act like a man”, or when Vito says ” A man who doesn’t spend time with his family, isn’t a man”

To me the essence of being a man is in the movie The Vikings, Ragnar the leader of the Vikings is imprisoned, and they want to throw him to the wolfs, but in Viking culture you can’t get to Valhalla (Their Heaven) unless you die with your sword in your hand. So he begs for his sword. A then young Tony Curtis gives Ragnar his sword played by Ernest Borgnine. Ragnar takes the sword, jumps a little at his enemies, then wide eyed, smiles at Tony, the leaps into the pack of starving wolves screaming “ODIN!!!!”

That is the essence of man, fearless, brave, uncowardly, and unrelenting

How to fix this I am a firm believer if we have a problem we should have a solution to try to fix the problem. Part of this problem is women raise most of our children. Fathers do not take an active role in the raising of their children. Most male children do not have a positive male role model in their life. Luckily I did my father, and uncles. Men who taught me what it means to be a man. I think the absence and downfall of alot of all-male institutions is part of this problem as well. The strip club is the last bastion where a man can be a man, and that’s not really a good thing. Men also need to start thinking with the big head and a lot less with the small head.  It’s nice to get laid, but for every action there is a consequence.  Another thing is women need to educate themselves and not fall victim to all the mass media. They have more power in society they also have more responsibility, in other words make up your mind on what you want in life.

Last but not least men, just be men. Women will either love you or hate you, but at least you lived your life like the great Frank Sinatra did his way.